| I probably think too often about my first interaction with Lee Eclov. I was studying pastoral ministry under him at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School, not far from where he led an Evangelical Free church in Lincolnshire, Illinois. I don’t remember the subject of the reflection paper he assigned us to write. But I’ll never forget his response when he handed back my paper. “You’re not a very reflective person, are you?” I’m still not exactly sure what he meant. But I knew at some level he was right. I didn’t have enough perspective on myself or experience with others to make for a good pastor in my 20s. I often wonder what I’m missing, what I’m not seeing, what might be obvious to others but a blind spot to me. I suspect his sharp question landed heavier than he intended. But Lee Eclov still gave me a gift by challenging me to think deeper about the Lord’s work inside me and not just through me. This week I’m mourning the loss of my professor, who died unexpectedly on April 8 at age 75. Lee and I kept in touch after graduation. We didn’t always agree on theology. But we shared a love of the Lord and service to his church. And we often reflected on our shared background in South Dakota, where he was born in 1951. In 2019 he asked me to write the foreword to his excellent book, Feels Like Home: How Rediscovering the Church as Family Changes Everything. Knowing Lee’s upbringing, I reflected in that foreword about the feeling of home on the farm and the greater joy of welcome into the family of God we know as the church. Here’s how I concluded: *** I hope those church members will be to my children a family who loves them through every stage and situation of life. I hope they’ll feel safe, welcome, and known as brothers and sisters in Christ. I hope they’ll see this bond of the Spirit as even stronger than the bond their mother and I share with them by blood. Apart from my children, I don’t live within 650 miles of anyone who shares my DNA. I’ll never again celebrate Christmas in that living room in South Dakota. But I’m surrounded by family. And I have a home. Even better, it’s a home that fills me with longing for the home we’ll share for eternity with God. I don’t always get along with everyone in this home, our church. Sometimes I hurt these spiritual siblings with my words, or my lack of care. In some situations we don’t agree on the best way forward. So we argue. Usually I need to apologize. Many of these brothers and sisters I’ve never even met, since this church family has grown so much in the last few years. And these aren’t necessarily the first folks with whom I’d choose to spend my time. Some of us don’t share many common interests. It really is a family. When I read Lee Eclov, it’s like he’s been in my home. And that’s not just because we both hail from South Dakota and crossed paths in the Chicago suburbs. It’s because I share his vision of the church as a home. I’ve been in large churches and small churches, growing churches and dying churches, churches full of farmers and churches full of hipsters. Every church should work toward the vision Eclov lays out in Feels Like Home: How Rediscovering the Church as Family Changes Everything. This vision is not only biblical, but also attainable for every church. You don’t have to be brilliant or rich or savvy or trendy. You could be declining and aging. You could be in the West or the Majority World. It doesn’t matter. You can pray together. You can remember names. You can bring a meal. You can mourn with those who mourn. You can sing the songs that have sustained the faith of family members for generations. Because in Christ, you have fellowship stronger than a brother’s bond. You have a home that neither death nor time nor anything else in all creation can take away from you. When you rediscover the church as family, it changes everything. *** We miss you, Lee. But we’re glad you’re home now with Jesus. Next week on Unseen Things: We’ll return on May 1 following The Keller Center’s annual retreat in New York and The Gospel Coalition board meetings in Memphis. |