I can remember laying on her bed, talking while she got ready to go out. We were in our early 20s, and my friend would layer on makeup, change clothes multiple times, add jewelry, and end up looking fabulous.

When she was done, she’d head to downtown Chicago. She’d meet friends at a bar or a party or a club. She’d dance and drink and have adventures with boys.

I never went with her. She never asked me to. I don’t think it was because she didn’t like me—we were close, in and out of each other’s apartments all the time—but because I already had what she was looking for.

While she went out, I went home to my 23-year-old husband. We would eat Ramen noodles and watch a Netflix DVD and snuggle.

I wouldn’t have traded places with her for the world.

As un-glamorous as it is, monogamous marriage is really good for women—that’s the countercultural truth that feminist Louise Perry puts her finger on in The Case Against the Sexual Revolution.

It’s always encouraging when God’s common grace is recognized and championed by someone who isn’t a Christian, writes Andrew Wilson in his excellent review. If you don’t have time to read the book, make sure you catch his piece. It probably won’t tell you anything new about marriage, but it’s refreshing to know about someone in the feminist movement pushing back against the way it’s hurting women.

My friend’s evenings were always more dramatic than mine. But they were never better.