Carolyn McCulley, the author of Did I Kiss Marriage Goodbye? Trusting God with a Hope Deferred, writes:
Over several years of ministering to single women, I’ve heard one question asked repeatedly: “Should I pray for a husband?”
On the surface, it can seem an odd question, but I am sympathetic to the reasons why it is asked. Lurking behind that one question are many others:
“What if God doesn’t answer this prayer?”
“Is this something I should even be focused on?”
“Is it selfish of me to want a husband?”
“Is God still good if I pray and I remain single?” and so forth.
You can read her answer here.